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“A soft answer turns away wrath,
    but a harsh word stirs up anger.“

Proverbs 15:1-2 ESV

In a recent experience teaching on how to engage and discuss politics at my church, I’ve seen firsthand how difficult—and rewarding—these conversations can be. While the topics are complex, I’ve also discovered three essential qualities that make discussing them much easier: civility, curiosity, and courage.

• Civility in All Interactions – Disagreements don’t have to be divisive. When we approach conversations with respect, listening to understand rather than to win, we create space for meaningful dialogue. Civility reminds us that the person across from us is more important than proving a point.
• Curiosity in Others’ Opinions – Rather than assuming we know where someone stands, we should ask genuine questions and seek to learn. Why do they believe what they believe? What experiences shaped their perspective? A posture of curiosity keeps conversations from becoming combative and allows us to grow in wisdom and empathy.
• Courage to Talk About Hard Things – Avoiding difficult topics may feel safer, but it doesn’t lead to growth. Courage means stepping into conversations even when they’re uncomfortable, trusting that truth and love can coexist. It also means being willing to challenge our own assumptions as we engage with others.

If you’ve struggled in this area, don’t give up. Growth takes time, and every respectful conversation is a step toward greater understanding. Keep pressing on—our communities and churches need voices that embody both conviction and grace.

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